Title: Happy couple (2 Samuel 6:16-23)
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May is said to be the month of the family, but after taking care of the children on Children's Day and the parents on Mother's Day, the couple's day (21st) is interspersed with the couple's day (the 21st), which is late. It tends to be bland like pineapple. I don't know how we spent that day either. Even if the couple's day has already passed, I hope that today will be a precious opportunity for couples who have been matched by God as a helper to get closer together because today is Marriage Sunday in the church calendar.
Today's text is the story of the marital quarrel between David and his wife Michal. David and Michal are outstanding people. David was skilled in warfare, a man of literature and art, and a man of great leadership. And Michal was the daughter of King Saul. However, they were not a happy couple. You need to know that even if you meet and live with people who are all well-equipped, that is not the condition for a happy couple. Their frequent marital quarrels eventually came to an end due to the decisive marital quarrel in today's text.
There is a short story called 'A Christmas Gift' by a writer named O Henry. In a city lived a very poor couple (Jim and Delhi). As Christmas approaches, we want to give each other gifts, but we don't have the money. My husband had a good watch he inherited, but the band was worn out. My wife had beautiful hair, but she had no pins to pierce her hair. The husband sold his favorite watch and bought a hairpin for his wife. The wife sold her beautiful hair and bought a watch band for her husband. They offered each other gifts, but the husband didn't have a watch and his wife's hair was cut short. Their gifts became useless to each other. But they hugged each other and shed happy tears. They were just as happy. They were experiencing deep love. Love melts the cold and overcomes poverty.
In this book, O'Henry said, "The love of these two is foolishly childish, but it is their hearts that are the wisest."
Folks, love is like a fool and childish. If you think about this and that, if you think about it, love doesn't come and goes, only the calculation remains. Couples should be benefactors to each other. Although I may not be a benefactor to many people, I hope that I can be a benefactor to just one person.
1. Let go of pride and take off the mask.
Verse 16 of today's text says, "As the ark of the LORD came into the city of David, Saul's daughter Michal looked out through a spear and saw King David jumping and dancing before the LORD, and she despised him in her heart." Michal had a heart of contempt in her heart.
Michal was so proud and self-conceited that she not only despised her husband, but could not even allow God to be glorified.
We need to know what a catastrophe and anger that pride is. If anyone is infected with it, he despises his neighbor and even despises God. If we allow even the slightest bit of pride in ourselves, it will cause all kinds of strife, envy, and irritation. Therefore, you should not be distracted by anything that promotes pride.
2. We must cover our faults.
You should inflate your spouse's good points and hide your spouse's flaws or secrets that you do not want to reveal.
Michal made fun of David's clothes running down. Verse 20 says, "When David returned to bless his family, Saul's daughter Michal came out to meet David and said to him, "How glorious is the king of Israel today, just as a prodigal man shamelessly reveals himself today, You have revealed yourself before your very eyes.”
And David said in verses 21-22, "David said to Michal, "You have done this before the LORD. He has left your father and all his house, and has chosen me, and made me ruler over the LORD's people Israel. I will rejoice before the LORD." Even if I become lower than this and appear lowly on my own, you said that I will be exalted by the maidservant.”
A long time ago, a little groom lived in a village. The 18-year-old bride was so bothered that her little groom always followed her around, begging for nurungji, and playing with her. One day, when my mother-in-law went to the market, the bride was cooking and the little groom asked him to continue playing. The bride was annoyed, so she lifted the groom and put it on the roof. While the little groom was weeping on the roof, his mother-in-law was coming back from the other side. The bride was the size of a pea-sized liver. “What if that little boy cries and tells his mother?”
Finally, the mother-in-law came near. The bride was nervous, but the little groom stopped crying. "Sexy! Do you want the big pumpkin here or the little one?" Still, as a groom, he covered his wife's faults in front of her mother-in-law. Seeing that, the bride thought. "Even if the groom is young now, he will become a reliable husband in the future!" In the end, it is said that the bride supported her well and made the little groom into a wonderful husband.
The difficult marriage is mainly caused by the husband rather than the mother-in-law. When a husband does not embrace his wife's faults, the daughter-in-law in the family suffers. When a couple covers each other's faults and encourages them, the family becomes a strong family. There is a proverb that says, "When a hen crows, the house is ruined." Now, the saying goes, "When a hen crows, it lays an egg." In fact, the wife's support and encouragement are a great strength to a husband's success.
3. Be clear about what you want and what you don't want.
You have to actively tell the other person what you want. And you have to make it clear to the other person what you don't want. If you try to take care of yourself, eventually people will think from their point of view, speak from their point of view, and make decisions from their own point of view.
Don't say you know everything just by looking into your eyes. You can know the waters of the open road, but you cannot know the inside of the people in the Han road. Moreover, although male and female belong to the same primate, they are distinct from each other. So it's hard to know. I want you to know that men and women have completely different biological characteristics. There is a saying that 3 minutes for men and 13 minutes for women. A man can reach organism in three minutes. But women say it takes more than 13 minutes.
4. We need to build each other up.
In Korean culture, it is believed that humility is when a husband demeans his wife and a wife demeans his husband. However, what is more important than how you speak in front of others is that you demean others even in your heart.
It's very simple for a woman to seize a man. I don't know what to do with respect. He lays down his life for that woman. Even in empty words, "Are you maybe that brave?" "Maybe you're that cool?" Then you know it's real.
But if you despise it, it will lead to ruin.
Once married, a wife must respect her husband. This is the command of the Bible, that is, the command of God. Because only then can they become a happy couple.
Let me introduce you to an anecdote between Queen Elizabeth II of England and her husband Prince Philip. One day, the two of them had an intense argument over a difference of opinion. So Prince Philip got angry and went into his room and closed the door. Shortly thereafter, Elizabeth II knocked on the door.
Then in the room, bluntly "Who are you?"
"Oh, Queen of England."
But there was no answer from the room.
After waiting for a while, I knocked on the door again.
Then "Who are you?"
"Your wife."
That's when the door creaked open.
Among Satan's names, the name 'Abuluon' in the Book of Revelation means "destroyer." Couples who are busy blaming and breaking down are under the control of Satan.
Romans 14:19 "Therefore, we are devoted to the work of peace and the edification of one another."
1 Thessalonians 5:11 "Therefore, exhort one another and build one another up, just as you do."
All of us should be able to confess without hesitation, "Meeting you has made me a better person."
A couple who destroys each other is the most unhappy couple.
What was the end of David and Michal's marriage?
Look at verse 23. "So Michal, Saul's daughter, was without children until the day of her death."
It was a wreck.