Title: Happy Family / 1 Peter 3:1-7
At the beginning of their honeymoon, when their beloved wife is sick, they say, "Hurry up, get dressed and go to the hospital!" If you call after 1 year that you are sick, “Honey! You know the hospital you went to last time? Take a taxi and go to it early!” If you call after 2 years that you are sick, “You don’t have any medicine at home? Take your medicine and sleep at home. You’re sick again.” 5 years Later, when she calls that she is unwell, she says, "What the hell do you mean you get sick all the time? I won't be. You have a problem with your constitution." After 10 years, the husband who saw his wife lying on the phone without even calling said, "No matter how sick you are, you can stay at home. I have to put things together. I'm really like this, so there's going to be something going on outside!" The man shouting out loud and going out to eat alone...
Here are the Ten Commandments for fighting well-fighted couples.
The first commandment is to strive to be a lover rather than a victor. Only the losers are left with the victors. It's about fighting a couple that wins together.
The second commandment is, "Take only one subject." It means not to fight while bringing out all the old stories. The trick of a couple fight is to finish with one topic at once.
The third commandment is to keep "timeouts." What does it mean to keep the statute of limitations? Don't go to Earth Wars and finish it within 24 hours.
The fourth commandment is, "Fight, but fight within a meter." Outdoor games are difficult. That is, do not extend the stage to the family. It is a foul.
The fifth commandment is not to end with a workaround. In other words, make sure to tie the knot and finish. We should love, forgive, and end well, rather than continuing to fight over and over after a temporary truce.
The sixth commandment is not to intervene or form alliances with third parties. If you blame someone or bring someone else in, the fight will only get bigger.
The seventh commandment is to avoid blasphemy. You should not attack yourself by bringing out the weakness you normally think of. Don't see yourself as a "problem person", but face "the person's problem".
The eighth commandment is not to fight. The spectators should never leave. It should be avoided in front of children or when the person is losing his temper or is nervous or perplexed. Avoidance is also the key to fighting.
The ninth commandment is, “Keep a journal of your anger.” Every time you have a conflict or anger, write it down and let go of the complicated emotions one by one at the right time.
The tenth commandment is to pray before fighting. Report to God and fight. And ask God to be a just judge. And then fight hard. But you have to keep this. It is a fact that "make them feel rather than assert, empathize rather than persuade".
Married couples who keep the above commandments are worthy of fighting. Rather, it can be an opportunity to confirm love. The problem is that our emotions are not so cool in the face of a fight. It runs wildly and spits out and rolls up like the world is going to end
Our families should be happy. What is your family's happiness index? The marriage relationship is a covenant relationship. A blood relationship can be loved without effort. Look at the love of parents for their children or the love of grandmothers for their grandchildren. It happens naturally, no matter what anyone says. This is blood-related love. However, the covenant relationship between husband and wife requires mutual effort.
And husbands say to love their wives, but to cherish them. They tell you to treat it like a fragile vessel. Should unbelieving husbands wield violence and swear words, so should they become believing husbands? Women are not only physically weak, but also mentally weak. Seeing that Eve ate of the forbidden fruit first, isn't the woman weaker in morality and willpower? Not to mention, especially emotionally. A woman's nature is like earthenware. Earthenware will break if handled incorrectly. Once broken, it is very difficult to restore it to its original state. These days, "twilight divorces" are on the rise. What does it mean that divorce rates are higher after 10, 20 or 30 years than at the beginning of honeymoon? It means that the wounds of the heart have accumulated. Therefore, the older you get, the longer a couple should be careful not to hurt each other's hearts.
When an elderly person dies, they usually join the marriage ceremony. However, a certain grandmother absolutely refused to join hands. There is also an interesting story that he made a will, saying, "Never ask him next to his young man!" But we are also people who share the precious eternal life that God has given us. It is not a problem to join hands in death, but a partner to live together in eternal heaven. How valuable are you? So our husbands should treat their wives as twice as precious.
Dear saints!
Be a good wife. The most beautiful wife is a wise wife who acknowledges her husband's authority and obeys him as if he were obedient for the Lord.
Be a good husband. A good husband is a husband who can read his wife's heart. A good husband is someone who knows how to handle soft and delicate dishes well.
A beautiful and happy family life depends on you.