Title: Happy Family / Ephesians 5:22-25
Content It is said that people met each other's eyes before we got married. The two of us here may even be standing here because their eyes met.
The expression that the world says that our eyes met is used to mean that we understand each other. Even the married people gathered here must have confessed before marriage, saying, "I can't live without you!" However, seniors who have already been married often say this to those who are about to get married.
“If you ask me to marry you again, I will never do it again with my current spouse.”
"It's okay to live alone if you have the ability!" besides that
"If you want your marriage to be comfortable, you have to beat the baseline early!"
The reason I'm throwing this one word at a time is that I'm not satisfied with my married life right now.
Everyone has expectations and dreams about marriage before marriage, but when it comes to reality, when it is difficult to handle the mistakes, we get frustrated and we see that the blessing of marriage is often turned into a curse.
Then why the hell do we get married and regret it again?
Why, as Schopenhauer put it, "you regret it if you do it, regret it if you don't"?
When they do not know God and meet each other's eyes, the marriage is already foreshadowing misfortune. Because marriage without God is just a shell without witnesses.
Marriage is the perfection of love.
There was no perfect marriage like the wedding of Adam and Eve, which was first held in the Garden of Eden.
God is the officiant, the whole world is a witness, and the promise between the two is a marriage made with a sincere confession, "This is flesh of my flesh and bone of my bones." However, even such a perfect marriage began to crack because sin had invaded the family.
Sin separates God and man, but also separates man from man. That is why, today, the idea of marriage for those who do not know God is that, as mentioned at the outset, human solutions such as overcoming the baseline, living alone, and so on come out. However, no matter what method you use, the end result is failure.
So, as I celebrate this occasion, I would like to introduce the happiest family as a model.
When God created humans, He did not create humans simply out of boredom, He created them as objects of love. To pour out all the love that God has. Because humans do not understand this fact, God calls His people to be My Bride. That is, God is the bridegroom and His people are the bride.
Marriage is the crystallization of love. Two people become one in order to fall out of the simple motive of seeing each other and to make love that can sacrifice themselves for the sake of their spouse. God has already shown us the appearance of the bridegroom. It is that He came to this low place in the flesh and died on the cross for the sins of their people who were the brides. What greater love is there than to lay down one's life?
Thus, the bride must submit to God, the bridegroom, and there is happiness only when obeying God, the master. But Satan tempts us today just as he destroyed the head of Eden in the first place. "Obedience is throwing away one's self-esteem. Men and women are equal, but don't obey and subdue them early! When we succumb to this temptation, our assumptions already have obvious conclusions.
When these two types of love are in perfect harmony, a beautiful family will be formed just as a beautiful church is formed in each region today. It must be borne in mind that this principle of marriage is not demanding of each other, but that this harmony is achieved when there is first sacrifice of one's own.
Today, problems in the church, society, family, and separation from each other are because they demand the sacrifice of others rather than their own. Where God's love does not exist, where mutual sacrifice is required, there is no happiness where God's love does not exist.
Those who know true love and true marriage know only those who have experienced God's love.
God does not love us according to circumstances, but He loves us even though we are sinners.
When these two met for the first time today, I don't even know what conditions they met. And he may have promised what he would do after marriage. But from now on, if two people want a happy family, I hope that they will forget all these conditions and promises and become a loving family despite the fact that it is.
When this love is realized on this earth, the heaven of the family will be established, and this kingdom of heaven will be perfected when Jesus Christ, the bridegroom, comes to this earth.
We will pray.
God, here today, these two have made an oath and vowed to make sacrifices for each other before God. Let these two know the love of God first, and give that love to each other so that they can enjoy the kingdom of heaven.
So, be a light and a salt to all people, so that you too, like us, become a family of witnesses who testify that you have a beautiful family in Christ.
I pray in Jesus name. Amen.