Title: Healthy married life (Ephesians 5:22-33)
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In May in our country, there are many anniversaries about the family. Children's Day on May 5, Mother's Day on May 8, Teacher's Day on May 15, Coming-of-Age Day on May 17, and many other anniversaries, etc. hadn't But fortunately, this year's couple's day has arrived. Last May 21st was the couple's day. It saved the meaning of two (2) becoming one (1) in 21 days. In this way, the establishment of Marriage Day is considered to be a part of the family life movement that aims to save the family in the current situation where the center of the family is constantly shifting to something else and in the reality that the family is being seriously dismantled.
Couples are the heart of the home and family. The most important thing in a family relationship is the marital relationship. When the marital relationship is broken, the family relationship is broken. The beginning of mankind also began through Adam and Eve. When a married couple is healthy, the family is healthy, the society is healthy, and the nation and country are healthy. However, today we are living in an era of chaos where the traditional view of marriage has been altered and marital relationships are disjointed. Many couples stand on a precipitous cliff. Anxiety of not knowing when you will fall from that precipice runs like war fortune.
A few days ago, while talking to an acquaintance, I heard a surprising story. These days, when you get married, you don't get into a coma, and each takes money. When I asked him why he was doing that, he found that the reason was terrifying. They take money, not things, because they have in mind that they will live and wear out. To get married without having any confidence in your spouse when starting marriage, to start a married life with a dream of a divorce and a divorce without thinking about living a happy life... It is costing you and making your home a hell. A society that encourages divorce, a society where in-laws and in-laws fight through proxy warfare in the case of a divorce, a society of de-motherhood and infidelity that says they will divorce but never take on their children. .
If we analyze the people who cause problems in all fields of politics, economy, society, culture and society, they are all people who have suffered psychological wounds at home. Married couple problem solving is the key to solving all problems in our society. Unfortunately, our society is now getting younger and more ferocious, and the number of crimes is increasing exponentially. However, this tendency is not unrelated to the destruction of the family. As the family collapses, this tendency is clearly on the rise. We cannot solve the problems of youth and social crimes without restoring the family. A warm and healthy home, like a heavenly home, is the best way and is the best answer. Other social devices and methods are inevitably incidental.
Building a healthy family is the way to build a healthy society, country, and nation. Even if he manages one family properly and takes responsibility for one family properly, he makes a great contribution to society. Even if a believer makes his own family a family of faith, he has made a great contribution to the church of God and the kingdom of God. All life is subject to crises. Family cannot be an exception, and marital relationship cannot be an exception. However, if every crisis comes when all families go bankrupt and all couples break up, perhaps there will not be a single couple or a single family in this world. Therefore, we must have an attitude of service that tolerates each other and considers and considers you before thinking of me first.
That is why I have prepared the Word to save the couple today. Although the couple was born and raised as a male and female, they eventually become one body, have children together, become parents, and are the head of a family and housewives. Therefore, the couple is sacred, dignified, mysterious and great. However, even this marital relationship can be destroyed if you do not follow the etiquette.
We would like to offer some suggestions for a healthy married life and a power couple to build a happy family.
1. Married love should be the number one priority at home. However, in our country, there are cases where parents give priority to the love of a couple. Such assumptions inevitably lead to problems. In some families, the family has changed from a couple-centered to a child-centered one. Such is the case with Goose Dad, for example. So it's not much of a problem? Parents are important and children are important. But not as much as a couple. The family should be centered on the couple. The family must be restored to be centered on the couple. However, in recent years, the family has been shifting from a couple-centered to another. When the family is shifted from a couple-centered to a grown-up-centered, a child-centered, a pet-centered, and an object-centered, it will cause serious obstacles to the couple's bond and love. And that family cannot be a garden of happiness. This has nothing to do with increasing divorce rates.
Couples should always live together. If you avoid or neglect living together for one reason or another, the problem is already growing. Strauss, a passenger on the luxury liner Titanic, which collided with an iceberg, was left with her husband as the ship was sinking. Unable to part with her husband, Mrs. Strauss refused to quickly get into the lifeboat and said: 'We've been living together for 40 years. I can't leave you now." How touching is that?
But these days, there is a saying that when a wife dies, she goes to the bathroom and smiles, and when her husband dies, isn't it said that she smiles while plucking the grass from her husband's grave? I hope someone just made up a statement out of boredom.
2. It must be acknowledged that the marital relationship is maintained by mutual effort. Couples should strive for personal maturity and self-development. Encourage others to strive for self-improvement. Husbands and wives must overcome their sense of inferiority. We must respect each other. You have to be grateful for each other. You have to make yourself the best you can be. You should be comfortable in your home, but still be tidy. This is something a couple should work on. There are some women who go out with makeup and dress up only when they go out while the sun is setting at home. What do you do because you look pretty to other men? Isn't it?
You need to be polite as you would a guest. You have to find creative ways to express your love. You should always seek freshness so that your opponent does not get bored. Couples must work together. You have to be a collaborator. You must be a helper. In this world, there are many couples who live as a partner they want rather than a helper. As a result, confrontations, adversaries, and conflicts continue. Love is nowhere and only hatred is accumulating. So, we can easily see that the family is dismantled and hurt, causing problems for the second generation and spreading to social problems. We need to become a couple who think about what I can help rather than what they want. The love deepens as a couple strives and strives to make up for each other's needs and shortcomings.
You need to make sure you have the same interest in the other person's parents. How is it? A couple's happiness is not something that comes naturally, but it is created through mutual effort and etiquette.
3. Know the other person's communication style. It's good to be interested in the other person's interests. You should try to feel the other person's feelings. How would you go about making a male thread look like a female thread? What happens if you try to make a female thread into a male thread? They are useful when they are male or female. We must respect each other. We need to get rid of the idea of tearing it apart and making it like me. This is how you end up doing a lot of ripping and repairing the family register while trying to fix it.
An insurance company in a foreign country conducted a survey of 2,000 men and women divided into 5 grades ranging from newlyweds to more than 20 years of marriage in order to find out what the secret of being a married couple is. However, the most common responses were ?쐁onsideration??and ?쐔alk?? Regardless of gender, the first place was consideration, the second place was conversation, and the third place was skinship.??
The cries of having a house but no family, having a family member but no family, prove that the disintegration of the family in our society is at a serious level. How many families do not get divorced for one reason or another but live in separate rooms and have lost conversations a long time ago?
4. Be clear (specifically) about your needs. And if possible, express your dissatisfaction with the other person gently with constructive suggestions. It works well with compliments.
5. There must be relief and support. Couples should be supportive of each other when they are sad, when they fail, when they get sick, and when they are having a hard time. There is a saying that couples are lovers in youth, comrades in middle age, and guardians in old age. Couples should always be together in everything. Today's Bible also says, "He who loves his wife loves himself," he said, "love your wife as yourself." Likewise, to love your husband is to love yourself and you should love your husband as yourself.
It is to live without changing that promise as the first marriage vow.
Dr. Albert Schweitzer recalled that he became famous because of his wife, Helen Burasra, who had lived with him all his life and supported him. It is said that 90% of a husband's success or failure depends on his wife's support. Here are some interesting statistics. A couple whose husband does not forget to hug and kiss his wife when he goes to work in the morning will see a big change in his life. Statistics show that people who kiss on their way out of the house in the morning live on average five years longer, have significantly fewer car accidents, cut 50% less absenteeism, and increase their earnings by 25% than couples who don't. In this way, kissing between husband and wife is meant to free the couple from all tribulation. But couples do not live in romantic love. Romantic love doesn't last long. It is to live with sacrificial love, that is, agape love.
The word "love" appears six times in today's text, but all of them are speaking of agape. Agape love is God's love. You can overcome the pain and crisis of marriage with God's love in any circumstance. However, in order to practice this love of agape, one must be filled with the Holy Spirit. You can't do it on your own. God's love is possible through the Holy Spirit of God. And they should be a couple who are submissive to each other and respect each other. Couples love each other, obey each other, respect each other, it is not right to be one-sided rather than each other.