Title To you who are thinking of divorce
To you who are thinking of divorce
Mark 10:6-9
2006-06-18
I. Text Commentary
The text is in the scene where the Jewish religious leaders are testing Jesus by trapping them with questions about divorce. Whichever way they answered, they expected that it would not be in accordance with God's Word, but Jesus gave the answer with a text based on Genesis 2. The Mosaic Law on Divorce did not mean that it was possible to do so because God was pleased with the divorce itself, but rather that it is difficult to immediately correct the perverse marital relations caused by the fall of man, but it is intended to clarify the minimum obligations and rights of marital relations that were in serious chaos at the time. can be seen as permitted. However, our Lord's answer does not appeal to such circumstances in the days of Moses, but commands us to return to the original principle of marriage before sin entered, that is, at the time of creation. The principle of marriage, that the two become one flesh, means the following three unions.
II. Principle of Marriage: One Body
A. Physical union: When two become one flesh, it means that physical and sexual union occurs first.
B. Mental union: It means not only to live in one space, but also to unite with each other mentally and become one mind. There can be no physical union without mental union. Even if they do exist, this is only carnal gratification, living together, not a true union. Although many people today are married, how many live with the feeling that their spouse is the one who understands them best?
III. Even when divorce is allowed
Even though God hates the breaking up of a marriage relationship, the Bible allows it. When sexual chastity is not maintained and when an unbelieving spouse demands that the marital relationship cannot be continued judged to be difficult). However, this does not mean that you can do it, but that you can do it at any time. The serious problem in divorce is that they use and justify the reasons for divorce for self-love while avoiding the obligation and responsibility to truly love each other. Even if the Bible says you can get a divorce, it's important to remember that it's not always the best. You should also know that the heavy cross of your heart that you must bear because you are divorced will never be reduced.
IV. Divorce and destruction of relationships
A. Relationship with God: Our relationship with God does not happen except through disobedience and sin. Instead of hatred and resentment, if there is compassion for the soul who lives without God and the love of Caritas, divorce will not be considered. The problem is that people who are very far from their relationship with God contemplate divorce. In divorce, we often think that either party is the victim, but if we look at this more honestly and fairly, the mental and physical bond between the couple is broken before they decide to divorce. Either party can contribute more to this situation, but it is by no means the responsibility of either party. This situation shows that a relationship with God that has already been cracked is on both sides. No one decides to divorce in the midst of the fullness of God's grace. After a divorce, there are some people who live by recovering their grace, but there are more people who live in pain for a very long time after feeling a moment of liberation.
B. Relationships with children: Divorce is the best abuse you can give your children. The divorce of their parents shakes their whole lives and tramples their souls. Children in such an environment are deprived of opportunities to learn the value of home, and may be able to follow the same path as their parents. Without the intervention of God's special grace, healing is unthinkable.
C. Relationship with oneself: It is difficult for a divorced person to erase the remorse from his heart even after many years have passed. God has already forgiven the person, but the person is often unable to forgive himself.
V. Overcoming hardships with love
A. We need grace: No matter how difficult it may be to stay married, even if the relationship is so painful that you want to decide to divorce, you must endure this process with grace and persevere. We must overcome with love while thinking of the suffering the Lord has suffered. So we need grace. Flee from this wind and rain in Christ, who is the rock of the ages. In doing so, the suffering will pass quickly, and all self-centered thoughts will be re-established as God-centered. Pray for the Lord to help you walk upright as a man's wife, as a woman's husband, and as the steadfast parent of the children you love. If we depended on people, we would not be able to do that, but it is possible because we think of the unchanging love of the Lord. In doing so, all these sufferings will later become testimonies of grace.
B. Carrying the Cross of Divorce: So, what should those who are already divorced do? Divorce is not the best option, nor is it a good thing before God. If possible, we should return to the relationship and reduce the misfortune to come, but those who cannot do so must bear the inevitable cross given to them. The cross may come with greater pain than you think, but when you live your life with the Lord as your bridegroom and love Him with all your heart, the Lord will give you the strength you can handle.
?짪. Conclusion and application sharing
1. Let's share the life we practiced after listening to last week's message, 'Submit to your husband (Ephesians 5:22-24)'.
Sharing 2. Mark 10:6-9 Let's share the overall content of the sermon and tell each other the parts that came to us deeply.
Sharing 3. What is the status of a normal couple?
Sharing 4. When is divorce allowed, what problems do you have at this time, and what kind of relationship does it destroy?
Sharing 5. When it comes to the great pain that makes the decision to divorce, how should one overcome it, and what should those who have already divorced do? 2006-06-18