Title: Education of Love
education of love
Ephesians 6:4
2011. 5. 1 Children's Sunday
If you were to pick the most precious and precious thing for us, I would say that it is love. Because the Bible says so. 1 Corinthians 13, as we know it well, is called the chapter of love. In 1 Corinthians 13, there is a saying, "If there is no love, there is nothing." There is no other word that best describes the preciousness of love as the saying, "Without love, there is nothing." And that's true. Without love, our life is nothing, no matter what we have, what we achieve, and what we enjoy. Love is so precious and so important to us.
Problems do not arise when there is no love, but when there is a lack of love, problems arise immediately. He may seem like a ignorant child, but his lack of love immediately manifests as abnormal behavior. They are supposed to suck their fingers or show grievances.
People have different expressions of love for the first and the second. When I gave birth to my first child, I was so happy and happy that I almost always ran around to see the child quickly. They do 100 days of work, buy a camera for the money they don't have, and take great pictures. But having a second child is different. For a young baby, the first begins to be marginalized. Then they often bite their fingers. A child who seems to know nothing finds it out. As soon as the parents are a little lazy because their desires for their children are satisfied, the children become dissatisfied with their parents. Love is that sensitive.
Our Samhee Kwon-chal was also young and sucked his fingers badly. My wife worked very hard to break her daughter's finger sucking habit. Of course, it was scolded, but it can't be fixed by scolding. That makes the problem even worse. Because it is due to the lack of love, it can only be solved by the replacement of love. Fortunately, our daughter Sam-hee must have been smart. He told me, "If you keep sucking your fingers, you can't use your fingers and have to have them cut off at the hospital."
Seoyeon is different. Hyeon-dong lost her mother's love, but there is no problem. Why? This is because the maternal grandmother, who received infant education, breastfeeds instead. Seo-yeon, who is loved by her grandmother, has a younger sister, but she is proud.
The root of all wrong, wrong, and bad things in this world is lack of love. Nothing can solve problems without love. The solution to all problems is in love. That is why God solved our fatal sin problem with love. It was solved by the cross. Love is the key to all problems. So, if you want a healthy, beautiful, and abundant life, you must be interested in love. You must invest in love. And we must always pray and strive for love.
There is a saying, "There are no problem children. There are only problem parents." Children become problem children when there is a problem with their parents' love. There are probably not many parents in the world who do not love their children. The problem with many parents is how to pass that love on to their children, and it's very inefficient. The love in the hearts of parents is 100, but in most cases, the love delivered to the children is less than 10.
Love is of little use if it is not communicated. Love is like salt in a furnace, no matter how full it is, if you don't add it, it won't work. The love of many parents is like salt in a furnace. Just being full of salt doesn't make food salty. Likewise, a child's life is not just filled with love in their hearts. It should be expressed so that the child can understand it and feel it. When a child does not know the love of a parent, people say that it is because the child is immature. no. It is not because the child is immature, but because the parents are foolish. You must know that it is the parents' responsibility, not the child's, for the child to know and feel the parental love. And this is the principle of all love. It is the husband's responsibility, not the wife's, that the wife does not know her husband's love. It is not the husband's responsibility that the husband does not know his wife's love, but the wife's responsibility. All love must always be expressed at the other's level of understanding, so that the other can fully feel and know it.
Another important reason that children do not fully realize and feel the love of their parents is the wounds they receive from their parents. We don't know how many unexpected wounds children receive from their parents.
If you love children, you must respect their character. However, many parents are unaware that their children have personality. I don't know how many people treat them badly because they love them because they are their own children. For example, parents and children may have disagreements and disputes. In that case, in most cases, parents try to press their children one-sidedly. You talk recklessly. In such cases, children try to follow the minimum rules and manners towards their parents. However, parents disregard the rules and manners of their children, pouring their feelings into them.
Today's Bible tells us, "Do not provoke your children." It is a message not to inflict violence on a child's personality. In most cases, the parent-child problem lies right here. Not expressing love is a problem, but expressing feelings that are not right for children is a bigger problem.
When talking about love in 1 Corinthians 13, God said that love is not rude. A lot of love today is hurt by rudeness. Also, many children are hurt by their parents' rudeness and are going wrong. We adults need to acknowledge that children's rudeness toward adults has its roots in adults. No matter how much you are a parent, you must be polite to your children. Of course, when a child does something wrong, you can scold the child, and in some cases use a rod. And it ought to be so. It is the authority and responsibility given to parents. But you must not abuse it. There are many parents who hurt their children by only loving their children, and by acting rudely, thinking only that they are adults and parents. I believe that true love education will be accomplished only when we can repent of it.
I'm about to finish my talk.
Education is only possible with love. Because without love, nothing can be achieved. But love is not being rude. Of course, parents love their children. I love you more than my own life. But in most cases, parents are rude to their children. Because we know that manners are something that children should possess only with their parents. But it is not. If parents love their children, they must learn to be polite to their children. Because true love will not be established if the person is rude to anyone.
I hope that all of you and I will be able to educate our children with respectful love.