Title: Husbands, cherish your wives / Peter 3:7
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Husbands, cherish your wives (Pet 3:7)
Most Korean men are immersed in Confucianism and do not know how to love their wives. Therefore, husbands want to consider how to restore the marital relationship to their wives.
1, Let's cherish our wife, a noble gift from God.
Since married couples have different growing environments, families, and customs, a family crisis will come if we do not make efforts to unite each other's personalities.
First, Korean men must abandon the idea of dominating and possessing their wives in Confucianism. You have to learn to see your wife as an equal to you and not to offend her and respect her.
Instead of trying to fix each other's personalities, we should try to understand each other and adapt to each other's personalities.
Men need to recognize that women are physically, mentally and emotionally different and know what hurts women.
After marriage, husbands do not value their wives, but pay attention to their work and hobbies.
Thus the wife of a fisherman becomes a widow of fishing, and the wife of a husband who loves golf becomes a widow of golf. When a husband comes home, reads a golf book, practice golf, and does not pay attention to his wife, wives become discouraged.
Although not divorced, there are many marriages that are dead in content.
Husbands should know what their wives want. Only then can marriage be reconciled (Matthew 10:8)
Women change when they believe that their husbands value them. Therefore, if you value your wife, you should cherish her more than your hobbies rather than work and invest time for her.
2. Pay attention to your wife's business and talk to each other
A married couple is a union of hearts and minds, so no matter how good a house you live and what kind of clothes you wear, if your heart is not united, your relationship will be broken.
A couple must look into each other's eyes and talk to each other in order for their hearts to be united. The intimacy between husband and wife arises when each other listens to even the smallest of stories.
In particular, when making important decisions, a man should have a deep conversation with his wife rather than arbitrarily making decisions on his own. Also, if you bring up a minor problem in the house or the problem of your children, you should do it yourself and do not ignore it.
A happy family is built when we pay attention to the little things, show courtesy and serve each other humbly.
If the conversation is awkward in the first place, you have to write a letter to convey each other's feelings.
Forgiving people like me and living with me, there will be no other people like you in this world. I know how insensitive and inhumane I am.
And when your wife says something, you should actively accept her invitation.
Also, when he hurts his wife, when he honestly admits his mistake and asks for forgiveness, the conversation between the two is not interrupted.
3. Find your wife's good points and praise her once a day.
Before marriage, couples only see each other's strengths, and after marriage, they only see each other's weaknesses. So, pointing out each other's shortcomings breaks each other's hearts and breaks the marital relationship.
Everyone hates hearing nagging. To create a happy family, you have to work hard to discover each other's strengths.
This is better than buying good clothes or buying good food.
And if you want to praise your wife, you have to try to say the negative side positively.
When a woman talks a lot, it must be said that she is expressive, when she has a difficult temper, she must be very sensitive, and when she is stubborn, it must be said that she is subjective.
If you look at everything positively in this way, you will naturally change your wife's bad habits.
What men must know is that when you talk about or ignore your wife's flaws in front of friends or other people, you are deeply hurt.
Human beings feel insulted when their weaknesses are exposed to others, and feelings of revenge burn in their hearts.
Women, in particular, are very hurt when they mention their weight or physicality.
Therefore, when men purposefully find out the good in their wife and praise them, their wives are comforted and strengthened.