Title: Marriage Allowed by God
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Marriage permitted by God (Genesis 24:1-9)
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*** The Christian Family Ministry Research Institute has published “Ten Commandments for Couples to Create a Happy Family”.
First, have a goal in your marriage.
The tragedy of marriage is the lack of goals. It is important to support each other and set goals for mutual growth.
Second, open your eyes before marriage. But after marriage, close your eyes.
Before you get married, you have to open your eyes and work hard to find your partner. However, after getting married, you have to open your eyes only to the strengths of the other person and close your eyes to the weaknesses.
Thirdly, in no case do not compare and do not keep secrets.
Comparisons make you miserable, and secrets lead to tragic things.
Fourth, say that you are angry rather than angry and do not go to bed with anger.
You can make minutes. But you have to deal with it before the sun goes down.
Fifth, do not face each other, but face in the same direction.
Face to face there is only disappointment and conflict. Do not attack each other. Efforts to encourage each other and to understand the other person's path are absolutely necessary.
Sixth, affection and economy cannot be separated. Be one in spending your money.
Economic decisions must always be made in consultation with each other, so that affection and trust in each other can be nurtured.
Seventh, keep in mind that 30 seconds of lips are 30 years of heart.
A warm word can make you happy.
Eighth, keep the joy of the bedroom well.
Make sexual things holy. You must not have an affair and share the sexual pleasures of your spouse.
Ninth, encourage each other and help each other lead an exciting life.
Tenth, open the day with prayer and close the day with prayer.
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It is the first holy order created by God and refers to the marriage between a man and a woman under social approval (Genesis 2:24). In the King James Version, the word marriage (Isaiah 62:4-5; Jer 2:2; Mal 2:11) is not used very often, and most of it is translated as the term marriage.
Jewish wedding customs
Jewish betrothal: The promise of engagement is made by giving and receiving deeds of engagement. When the deed of engagement comes and goes, it becomes legally binding and cannot break the marriage except through death or divorce. According to Jewish tradition, this was done by signing and exchanging a deed of engagement one year before marriage. In recent times, these are usually signed and exchanged just before marriage.
Conditions for Marriage: In the Talmud, it is stated that there are three acts that constitute a normal marriage. The first is cohabitation, the second is by exchanging marriage certificates (ketuba), and the third is by exchanging items that are the landmarks between men and women.
Groom's Torah Reading: Before the wedding, the groom reads the Torah during the morning worship service on Shabbat (Jewish Sabbath) before the wedding. At this time, there is a custom of throwing candy or raisins to the groom who comes down after reading the Torah. It is a custom for the bride and groom to live a sweet and happy life.
Shramot Ring Exchange: Jewish wedding rings must be made of unblemished metal. This is called 'Shramot ring', translated into Korean as 'perfect ring'. Like a complete ring, it symbolizes the unity of the bride and groom.
The ring may be gold, silver, or bronze, but it is forbidden to insert jewels into the ring. This is because it is believed that placing jewels will damage the ring, break the integrity of the ring and lose its value as a wedding ring.
‘Hoopa’ where the wedding ceremony takes place: The wedding ceremony is held under a canopy-shaped awning called a hufa.
Friends of the bride and groom hold four poles to support the hupa, and the bride and groom stand under them to hold the wedding ceremony. Originally, the newly prepared rooms for the bride and groom were called hoopa. It is said that the hoopa like today has been used since the Middle Ages.
Bride and Groom Fasting: According to Jewish tradition, the wedding day is the day when all sins of the bride and groom are forgiven and a new life begins. For this reason, the bride and groom fast for the day from the evening before the wedding ceremony to the end of the wedding ceremony the next day. So Jewish weddings are usually held in the late afternoon. Because their fasts end at sunset at the end of the day. The bride and groom wear a white robe called 'kitel' worn on the Day of Atonement because it means that their sins are completely forgiven through the wedding ceremony, just like on the Day of Atonement. White symbolizes purity and forgiveness of sins. Now that you are clean, you promise to live a clean life after marriage.
Ketuba: This is a Jewish marriage certificate, and the Jews give this Ketuba to the bride at the time of marriage. Ketubah has its origins during the Babylonian captivity, and it is said that it was created for the purpose of protecting married women and maintaining the authority of marriage. The oldest of the ketubas that have ever been preserved date from the 2nd century AD. In this ketuba, it is written that a husband must take care of his wife, provide for her needs, and please her. The Ketubah usually states that financial support should be provided to women if they are widowed or divorced from their husbands. It gives a glimpse into the consideration of Jewish women at that time.
Kinan: When the ketuba is ready, the officiating asks the groom whether he will keep everything as written on the ketuba. If the groom answers “yes”, the officiant gives the groom a handkerchief or other small items. By receiving this item, you will use it as evidence of signing the oath of Ketuba. At this time, the evidence given to the bridegroom at the ceremony is called ‘kinan’. This must be done in front of people and they must sign as Witnesses of Ketubah.
Wedeken: When the bride prepares for the wedding ceremony and is surrounded by the bride's friends, the groom is surrounded by the groom's friends to sign the ceremony. After the signing, the groom's friends dance and lead the groom to the bride. At this time, the groom lifts the bride's veil to check the bride's face. At this time, the officiant recites the scripture, “Our sister, you shall be the mother of ten million people” (Genesis 24:46). This is because Jacob loved Rachel, but when he woke up after marriage, it was Leah and not Rachel. It is a tradition established with the intention of preventing such mistakes by checking the bride's face before the wedding.
Broken glass: At the same time the wedding is over, the groom steps on the glass and breaks it.
The first is to mourn the destruction of the Jewish Temple.
The second is to remember that just as a shattered glass cup cannot be restored to its original state, marriage is an eternal and irreversible thing.
After the wedding, the bride and groom enter their private room to rest and eat a little food. This is called ‘i-hood’.
First, Abraham who received the blessing (Genesis 24:1)
“Abraham was now an old man. The Lord blessed Abraham in everything he did.”