Title: My Role for a Happy Family
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My role for a happy family / Colossians 3:18-21
According to the National Police Agency, there were 13,141 domestic violence offenders arrested from January to the end of October last year. Of these, 285 were arrested and 12,068 were detained without detention. The main reasons were family discord (44.5%), personality differences (14.1%), and economic poverty (10.2%).
Moreover, the main target audience for such domestic violence is the 30-40s. In particular, there is violence on the part of the husband, and sometimes it is considered to be the exercise of paternity or the authority of the head of the household. Therefore, even in the scene of violence, it is very difficult for the police to get involved.
This is the reality we live in today. A family formed in the name of love is exposed as a shameful form of violence. It hurts my heart to see such reports. This is because family breakdown is not simply a family problem, but the pain of the kingdom of God.
At this time, we can't help but ponder whether we can build a happy family while looking at the reality of such a family. We would like to think about the answer through today's Word.
To create a happy family, you can become a happy family when you know where you are and fulfill your role well. In other words, the husband plays the husband's role, the wife plays the wife's role, and the children do the children's role well.
1. The role of the husband (Ephesians 5:28)
1) You must love your wife.
A wife is a matchmaker sent by God, and a husband and wife should not have a relationship of master-slave relationship but a relationship of mutual love. The Bible says to husbands, "Love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her" (Ephesians 5:25). Imposing only unconditional submission on a wife is the result of being possessed by a false patriarchal authority. We must give unconditional love, not unconditional submission. A wife lives on her husband's love. Love must be expressed.
Please confess that I love you with words.
Please express your love with your body.
Please show your love through your actions.
If they love to the point of sacrificing themselves for their wives, wives will establish and follow their husbands' authority for themselves.
2) You must lead the family.
A father's duty to lead the family is very important. A godly father like Abraham allowed his descendants to inherit blessings, but a father like Eli, the priest, failed to properly raise his children and eventually turned into a cursed family.
The head of the household must first be an example to the family in faith (Psalm 101:2).
When the head of the family, the most important member of a family, sets a perfect example both religiously and morally, the family trusts him and follows him. The Bible also emphasizes that the qualifications for a church bishop must be “one who rules the household” (1 Timothy 3:4,5).
Also, the head of the household must be financially capable. You should be able to give your wife enough money for living expenses and give your children pocket money as much as others give.
If this doesn't work, you have to build up your family. Children who study should create an atmosphere where they can study on their own, and children who have become members of society should instill strength and courage to stand up on their own. A wife must build her authority and instill in her that my husband is the best in the world.
If the head of the household performs his duties faithfully as a husband and father, the family will enjoy happiness under God's blessing.
2. The role of a wife (Ephesians 5:22-24)
1) You must obey your husband.
The text says that wives should submit to their husbands as to the Lord (verse 22). This is because the husband is in the position of a leader who leads a family just as the Lord is the head of the church. Because families need leaders as all organizations need leaders, God made men to be the subjects of the family (cf. Gen. 2:24). Therefore, for the sake of harmony and prosperity in the family, a woman must obey her husband, the leader. It is important to note that just as the church does voluntary submission out of gratitude for the salvation of Christ (v. 24), so also wives must do voluntary submission from the heart.
It is said that a virtuous woman who fulfills her duty is worth more than pearls (Proverbs 31:10), and such a wise woman builds her house (Proverbs 14:1). A virtuous wife takes good care of her husband so that he can be respected by others, and becomes the crown of his father-in-law.
Proverbs 12:4. A virtuous woman is her mother-in-law's crown, but a woman who abuses her husband makes her bones rotten.
2) You must raise your children well.
A mother who gives birth to a child through the pain and labor of childbearing has an obligation to nurture the child well. A godly mother raises wonderful children such as Samuel and Timothy, but Herodias, Herod's wife, persuaded her to commit crimes.
I hope that the mother herself will stand upright in faith.
And I want you to be a person who is religiously respected by everyone.
When this is a good deed, you can raise your children properly and well.
And if you teach your children the way they should go, they will not leave them when they are old. A mother's correct teaching will guide her child's life throughout her life. It is often said that home education is important, but the role of a mother who has to bear a large part of this home education is very important and valuable.
3. The role of children (Ephesians 6:1-3)
You must honor your parents.
An angel sent from heaven was commanded to return with the most beautiful thing on earth. The first thing that appeared beautifully in his eyes was a 'rose flower'. After taking it, looking to the side, the bright 'baby smile' looked even more beautiful. While taking it home, I discovered a strange beauty, which was 'Mother's Love'. On the way to heaven, the rose withered, and the baby's smile disappeared. However, only 'Mother's Love' remained and became more sublime. In the end, the angel went before the Lord with 'Mother's love', the only beauty on earth that never fades away.
Children are an inheritance and reward given by God to parents. As precious to parents, children should also respect their parents well. Because they were born, raised, and brought up by their parents, parents are precious and precious people that cannot be compared to anything else in the world.
Children who honor and obey their parents are the ones who keep God's commandments, and this is the secret of blessing and longevity on this earth (Deuteronomy 5:16). Those who honor their parents well will also follow their example to honor themselves well.
conclusion
When family members fulfill their duties well, it becomes the driving force for building a happy family, and building a happy family becomes the cornerstone of a healthy society. The experiences of love accumulated at home will enable you to practice love that brightens society. Raising a happy family is obeying God's will for the family, and then God's glory will shine brightly in society.