Title: Parents who need children / Ephesians 6:4
Contents
Title: Parents who need their children
Bible: Ephesians 6:4
Introduction
The happiest people in the world are those who have left many good memories with their family. Conversely, the most unhappy people in this world are those who live with hurtful family members.
If we die, the thing we regret the most is that we didn't make our family happy.
1. Parents who do not provoke their children.
Verse 4 “And fathers, do not provoke your children to anger.” This is because the heartache caused by parents is the cause of many unhappiness. So what makes our children angry? There are three reasons.
Second, because parents try to pretend to be too righteous in front of their children. How is the attitude of pretending to be righteous expressed? It is usually expressed as an accusation. The righteous are tolerant of mistakes, but those who pretend to be righteous immediately blame them for their mistakes. Also, a person who pretends to be a righteous person blames others, even when it is clearly his fault. Children respect their parents when they are righteous, but lose respect when they pretend to be righteous. In one family, a father decided to read the Bible with his child every morning at 7 am. And every morning, Dad woke him up and read the Bible diligently for a week. But one day, my father slept until 8 o'clock and was woken up by the child's popularity. Seeing how much time had passed, the father annoyed the child, "Why didn't you wake me up?" The child has a curious mind, "Dad is tired, so I need to get him to sleep more!", but after waking up late, wouldn't it be okay to scold him rather than saying, "Why didn't you wake me up?" Many parents today think that showing their children what they are lacking in respects their authority. But parents are also sinners. Parents also need Jesus and need the Gospel.
Third, we provoke our children because we have no faith. What are the candid reasons why parents constantly nagging their children? Is it because you love your children? Of course, in part it is. But the more obvious reason is that the parents themselves have no faith and are afraid. What's the result of nagging like that? Have you seen any good results? Nagging rarely yields good results. Rather, it has the opposite effect.
We sometimes give our children multiple attentions. "Don't do this!" However, children quickly forget the attention and usually do more of what not to do. And then eventually you get the job done. Then the parents get angry and nagging again. "You! I told you not to do that, but why did you do that!" I'm going to repeat the same nagging as I did. Why are many parents nagging their children rather than understanding their characteristics?
If you think about it, it is because of the distrust and fear in their hearts. In other words, because they do not know obedience, are afraid that they will not grow up to be good children, and do not trust that our children will have the work of God's grace, they severely rebuke their children and show a disrespectful attitude.
When parents do not do it and demand excessively on their children with excessive greed, the children become angry and distrust their parents.
2. Parents who teach and discipline
Text 4 “Nurture them only in the discipline and admonition of the Lord.” This suggests that the father is the head of the family and is responsible for the education of the children. Parents have a responsibility to bring up their children in the discipline and admonition of the Lord, not simply by not provoking them to anger. Culture refers to reproof accompanied by training or corporal punishment, and discipline refers to oral instruction or correction. Through these disciplines and admonitions, fathers should teach Christian behavior so that their children may mature in Christ.
Just as a carpenter needs to lay an ink line to cut a tree straight, it goes without saying that strict education is essential to raise a child straight. The author of Proverbs writes, “For a command is a lamp, and a law a light, and a reproof of instruction is the way of life” (Proverbs 6:23). And he said again and again, "Be careful with instruction, and give ear to the word of knowledge. Do not discipline a child. If you beat him with a whip, he will not die. If you beat him with a whip, you will save his soul from Hades" (Proverbs 23:12- 14).
And he said, "Teach a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6). In education, it is very important to consider the qualities and characteristics of the trainee. The main point of this verse is to take into consideration the child's abilities, potential, nature, and temperament, but to train the child from an early age to lead a life of devotion to God.
Textbooks are what parents need to teach their children with a heart of love and prayer, focusing on the Bible, the word of the Lord.
3. Parents who know their children as a blessing
Psalm 127:3 “Children are an inheritance from the Lord, and the fruit of the womb is his reward. The children of young men are like arrows in the hands of a merchant; blessed are those who are full of their traditions. They will not be put to shame when they speak with their enemies in the gates. "I did. According to the context, the son here is the son as the being who will carry on the lineage of a house, that is, the existence of that house. But he says that the son is a gift from God. Once again, it makes us realize that the survival of a family depends entirely on God.
Because they are young, they can help and support their parents when they are older and need their help. In particular, these are the kind of forward-looking soldiers designated by God to solve a crisis that requires physical strength at home. Because of this fact, they are called arrows in the hands of a merchant.
Not being put to shame at the gates means that, contextually, a father of children need not be afraid of losing the trial, even if he is unfairly accused and stands before a judge in Bol. Because his well-bred, healthy, courageous sons will not just wait for their father to suffer or lose. With this fact in mind, speaking with the enemy can be seen as an act of defending one's position at trial (Joshua 20:4; 2 Samuel 19:30; Jeremiah 12:1). Therefore, parents should nurture their children well through the Lord's education and admonition, so that they can nurture them with sincerity while praying, knowing that their children are a blessing when they are in trouble.
"conclusion"
A day for children has been set, and the general society has set that day as a public holiday, showing special interest in children, and in the same context, the church shows special interest in children. We need to raise them as wonderful children who glorify God, be filial to their parents, and contribute to society by raising them with the word of the Lord.