Title: The Courage to Persevere When You're Angry
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Courage to be patient with anger (James 1:19-21)
Have you had any upsets over the past week? What or who are you upset about? What made you angry or exploded? When we are in a bad mood, when things are not going well, or when we are stressed with a tangled schedule, it is easy to get annoyed or angry. We often spoil our day's happiness by our moods and emotions.
Medically, the more you get angry, the higher your blood pressure will rise and the faster your heart will beat. A recent study found that the emotion of anger is more dangerous to the heart than smoking and cholesterol. Anger harms physical health, and makes character, character, and soul sick. Even a rattlesnake can't fight its anger and bites its own body. Painter creates Cancer. One of the mental disorders of Koreans is ‘Hwabyeong’. For many years, the word ‘Hwa-byung’ has become an international medical term.
We need to ask ourselves these questions when we are angry. ‘Is it worth wracking my character because I am angry at this? If it's worth it, it's wrath; otherwise, it's a bad temper.' There's a good saying. “A small bowl boils quickly.” The more you get angry over trivial things, the narrower you are. “You can tell the level of a person by the way he gets angry.” So I need to ask this again. Are my emotions now controlled by circumstances or by character?
Character is character.
Therefore, your emotions should be controlled by character, not situation. If it is his tendency to get angry, then it should be your character that you are not easily agitated. There are people who can never be matched. You have to accept that there are people who can never be at peace. However, you should not react or deal with anger. Force should never be used as a means of dealing with anger and anger. The violence of language can never be justified either. It sternly declares that human anger does not achieve God's righteousness. (verse 20) To be easily angered is to fall short of God's standard.
That's why the Bible teaches us to manage our anger well. One of the sins that God hates is anger and anger. God never likes force or violence. Because God directly judges. The use of force is when I block and invade God's rule and intervention. In other words, it is a violation of God's sovereignty.
What is really sad is that Moses suffered a lot of damage because he was angry. At Meribah in Kadesh, when the Israelites complained about the lack of water, they struck the rock twice in anger. Even though he had provoked his wrath for God in his own way, God took away the blessing of entering the land of blessing, Canaan. Even if you do ten things well, if you get angry once, all your achievements will be in vain. So, why do people get angry?
1. Self-centered thoughts cause anger.
Egocentric thinking is feeling that you are not being treated fairly. Feeling that he is not being treated fairly is the cause of his anger. Psychologists define anger as “the emotional reaction that occurs in the mind when I feel that I have been treated unfairly.” In other words, anger is the root of egocentric emotions.
2. Competitive nature makes it easy to get angry.
The Bible teaches that dysfunctional evil lurks in man's competitive spirit. The stronger the competitive spirit, the more likely they are to get angry and heat up. Even if you give the cause yourself, you pass the responsibility on to the other party. From the moment you think of your opponent as a competitor, you create the soil for your anger to grow. Cain is angry because of his rivalry with his brother Abel, but he blames Abel for it. So I speak harshly. In Genesis 4:9, Cain is also angry with God. There are things we need to be careful of. The more extreme you are, the more you provoke feelings of anger. Because the harsher the words, the higher the emotions. The softer your words, the softer your emotions. A gentle word turns away anger (Proverbs 15:1). So the Bible teaches us to be slow to speak and slow to anger (verse 19). You should.
First, we are not a holy God. Second, we must admit that we are also evil. Therefore, it is necessary to distinguish whether the person is angry because of blood, whether he is angry because of a bad temper, and whether he is angry or angry. In the end, the person who gets angry is a big loss to the extent that he or she gets angry a lot. The more you get angry, the more your personality is damaged, you lose people, and you fail to fulfill God's righteousness. We must listen carefully to the words of verse 20.
When a person becomes engrossed in his emotions because he can't overcome his anger, he can hurt not only himself but also others. Anger is like a sharpened sword. If you use it incorrectly, you will be seriously injured. Sometimes, even if you are outraged, raising your voice or yelling will hurt you. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . My heart is bitter and I am not happy. There are times when I feel really bad about it.
3. Anger is a more or less learned reaction.
The more people who grew up watching their parents get angry, the more they learned the emotion of anger without realizing it. From a young age, without realizing it, feelings of anger have accumulated. Also, one of the causes of anger is being close to someone who is irritable. Recently, a new word called 'sergeant's disease' (上士病) is popular in the company. If you work under a boss who is good at anger and abusive language, and you get promoted, you will show the same pathological symptoms as the boss. So avoiding negative people if possible helps shape your personality. Even if we are close to someone who harbors poison of our hearts, it is important to be careful not to pass the poison to you. If you react equally rudely and harshly, you are already addicted to the poison. Therefore, we must close our ears to the wrong words.
There is such a good saying. “The eyes trust themselves, the ears trust others.”
It's a good warning that our judgment can be clouded by what we hear from whom. People who are particularly prone to anger have two backgrounds. First, he is a wounded person. Second, they are immature. An impatient person gets angry easily. Mature people have the courage to hold back their anger. How can I become a victor who can tolerate anger well?
1. Let's overcome through meditation and singing.
David suffered a lot of injustice. I was betrayed a lot, and I suffered a lot of personal attacks. There were countless unfortunate things. There were many conspiracies and many curses. Still, I didn't get angry at all.
I meditated on the Word of God and digested my anger. Sometimes, I controlled my emotions with hymns. It occupies a large part of the content of the psalms. Psychologist Dr. William Menninger teaches, "Don't talk when you're angry, talk once you've calmed down." I hope that you will be victorious so that the devil does not take advantage of you through deep meditation and singing while quietly waiting for God.
2. Let's overcome through prayer and love.
Anger must be resolved biblically. It is not a good thing to suppress it unconditionally. Holding on to anger can make you sick, and anger can turn into depression. An even more terrifying anger builds up. Some people say that whenever they hit the ball while playing golf, they call the name of the person they hate. Others go to the bowling alley and knock down pins to get rid of it. It's a destructive method.
The Bible teaches us to be patient with love. If you love, you are not easily angered.(1 Corinthians 13:5) You can just look after yourself as much as you love, you can embrace it with prayer, and you can endure your anger because you love. Let's win with love.
3. Let's overcome by being filled with the Holy Spirit.
The Bible accurately diagnoses the root cause of people's anger. Let's look at verse 21. He is good at anger because his heart is evil. I get angry because there are so many cores in my heart. That is why we sternly declare that human anger does not achieve God's righteousness (verse 20).
I need to get rid of the evil and poison that lurks in my heart. Getting angry easily is not a matter of temperament, it is a matter of sinful nature. The root cause of anger is sinful nature. Cain's emotional outburst of anger was because he had a "desire of sin" in his character. Evil was lurking in his heart (Genesis 4:7).
As Hal Urban puts it, the difference between an angel and a demon is not in appearance, but in what he says. Jesus' words are correct. "Words come from what is in the heart." Therefore, we must be governed by the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit must rule over my sinful nature.
R.A. Pastor Torrey confesses this. “God, help me not to speak rudely when I don’t feel full of the Holy Spirit.” The courage to endure anger is only possible with the filling of the Holy Spirit. The more we are filled with the Holy Spirit, the more courage we have to endure when we are angry. We pray that all of us will become victors over the emotions of sinful nature.