Title: The Most Important Thing of Parents
Colossians (18) The Most Important Thing of Parents
(Colossians 3:21)
<Do not anger your children>
First, because of the disrespectful attitude. Children are not the property of the parents, but the beings God has entrusted to the parents to raise them for a while. Therefore, no matter how poor your children are, you should regard them as children of God and respect them like princes and princesses of the holy kingdom. The reason God has given children certain shortcomings and obstacles is to understand them well, have compassion, and make up for them, while respecting and loving them as much as possible.
Second, because of the indifferent attitude. Some parents say they love their children but are indifferent to their actions. If your children ask you to come to the school sports day and they don't come because they are busy, no matter how many times you say “I love you!”, you do not believe in that love. As much as the time you spend with your children, your children will be with you when you are old. Love is attention. Excessive attention is sometimes poisonous, but giving proper and wise attention is far more valuable than giving material things.
Third, because of the hypocritical attitude. Parents must first set an example for how they want their children to be. If you want your children to live happily, you need to show that you and your spouse are happy. You must also obey your promises and traffic laws in front of your children. When a parent breaks a traffic light once in front of their child, it leaves a deep scar on the child's unconscious and conscience. Even if it seems like they don't see it, children learn by watching and learning how their parents live.
Fourth, because of the inconsistent attitude. It may not seem like a big sin or fault, but one of the things that causes a lot of anger in a child's heart is the inconsistent attitude of parents. It's also a problem to ask them to do this yesterday and do that today, and the hot-blooded tendency to do great things when they're in a good mood and scream when they're bad. One of the best words of a hot-blooded person is “I have no end!”, but you don't know how self-centered that statement is. There is no sin of absurdity and ignorance as if it hurt someone's heart and solved it quickly.
Fifth, because of the attitude of comparison. One of the things children hate the most is, “Who are you and why are you like this?” Everyone is different. They have different talents, different environments, and different visions, but looking and comparing just one thing creates anger and has no educational effect.
One day, a father scolded his son. “Why are you like that? Lincoln lived a hard life at your age, but do you know how hard he lived?” My son was always patient and said a word from day to day. "Dad! Lincoln was president when he was your age, so why are you like that?” Such comparisons do not challenge, but only breed anger. You should also be wary of favoritism. Why was Joseph sold by his brothers? Because of Jacob's strong preference for Joseph. Comparison and favoritism stimulate feelings of inferiority and hostility.
"The Most Important Thing for Parents"
Do not anger your children. Then your children will become discouraged (verse 21). In particular, ask your children, “Who do you look like? What the hell! Don't ever say, "Get out and die!" Words become seeds. If you say an enemy, you become a real enemy, and if you say, “Get out of here!”, you will really go out and die someday. So tell your children, “I love you! good job! That's great!” Say lots of things and lift your child up from discouragement. God hates words that discourage others.
When Moses chose 12 spies to spy out the land of Canaan, 10 people gave a negative report saying, “We are like grasshoppers,” and the people were discouraged. In the end, both those who were discouraged and those who were discouraged could not enter the blessed land of Canaan. Instead of discouraging your children and family with such disbelief and negative remarks, look for strengths and encourage them greatly. No matter how difficult it is, hide your depressing expression and language in front of your children. It is because seeing the gloom of their parents is on the one hand sympathetic and on the other hand very discouraged.
Also, parents should teach broad love so that they do not fall into materialistic heresies by encouraging their children to actively participate in helping others. Children who know love receive God's love. After all, the foundation of a child's education is faith and love. Through such education of faith and love, you can succeed in raising your children even if you do not have any other success. It is the most important thing for parents to challenge and encourage their children to live lives that glorify God and love their neighbors.