Title: The Wise Man and the Family
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May 5 is Children's Day and May 8 is Mother's Day. Therefore, this week can be regarded as a family week as a whole. Now, as we thank God for giving us a family, we realize how grateful our family is to all of us, and it will be necessary to review and examine our attitudes from the perspective of parents and children.
Even with the exception of these extreme cases, our children who only need to study well, leaving behind the problems of entrance exam hell, sexual-oriented thinking, and all human education, these are immature mama boys is growing with This is a phenomenon that occurs due to overprotection, and it is worrying to see that they depend too much on their parents even after they become college students, but what is more serious is that the number of students with emotional and behavioral anxiety is increasing. It is a big problem that the new generation of students in the age of individualism are too dependent and consuming.
The attitude of parents towards their children is love and authority. Children are pretty and lovely, but they are not our possessions or ornaments. But parents oppress their children in the name of love. If not, they become very discouraged, indifferent, and abusive. It is easy for parents to mobilize various oppressions under the guise of 'for you' false love.
The important role of parents in the relationship between parents and children is to accept their children as they are and to allow them to grow physically and mentally. It is very sad that love often turns into domination or possession. Perverted love is not good for others and enslaves each other, so it distorts the relationship between husband and wife or between parents and children. The love of a physically, mentally and financially independent and mature person is beautiful and saves others, children, couples, and friends. However, there is a characteristic that immature people who are not mature enough to make love in the name of love kill the other person. So the worst thing about overprotection is that this vicious cycle ends up killing another person. A person who has not grown up as an independent individual knows only himself and does not think of others, so he does not see his children or spouse as an independent entity, and treats them as his own clone or prey, resulting in destruction of the other person.
The words of Proverbs, the wisdom literature that we read today, are actually similar to what is said in the Prophets. Human beings have to believe in their own abilities to some extent, have self-confidence, care for others, exercise kindness and truth, and intervene in the affairs of others. But ultimately, we must humbly fear the Lord. Therefore, the God shown here is not a God who is too strong to make humans foolish or weak, nor is He an irresponsible God who leaves humans alone. Here, God is a God who believes and trusts humans, gives them the joys of the world, surrenders them to the world, and takes care and rebukes humans when they make mistakes and is with them. Proverbs says that God's image is like that of true parents.
I said it mainly from the parents' point of view, but I think that our attitude towards our family should be like this from the standpoint of any human relationship. I hope that we will all become beings who realize true filial piety by knowing, feeling, and loving God.