Title Ephesians 06:4 Happy families, happy children
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Happy family, happy children
Ephesians 6:4
And fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and admonition of the Lord.
Building a happy family is the ideal and dream of all of us.
♪. Even if you ask me to come to a pleasant place, the only place for me to rest is my small house ♪.
No matter how humble you may be, the best place in the world is your home. A home is a haven for a tiring life, a nest of love and happiness. For this reason, the home is called a little paradise.
When the Bible introduces the kingdom of heaven, it explains it using terms about family order and family. For example, God is introduced as the Father, Jesus as the Son, and the Holy Spirit as the Mother's Comforter. The Lord is compared to the bridegroom and the saints to the bride. When explaining the kingdom of God, it is because the family is becoming a beautiful, happy, comfortable, and loving haven like heaven.
Home is a little paradise. But what about our current family? Are you heavenly happy, comfortable, and full of love? Aren't hatred, conflict, distrust, resentment, anxiety and disappointment growing deeper and deeper in the home that should be the home of happiness? Is the home losing its function as a haven for growth, especially for young children?
There is this story in the writings of a surgeon. It is said that many children these days go to the hospital with head injuries. In the past, children used their arms and legs a lot to play and fight, but today's children hit and bang their heads when fighting, and it is said that children living in apartments openly hit the wall with their heads when they are angry. The reason is that these days, children grow up on cow's milk, so they have horns. meaningful words. Because the children grew up without being able to suckle while feeling love in the mother's warm arms, there is no choice but to grow horns on their heads.
Modern children grow up with a lack of parental love. It grows without eating the mother's juice. Children from happy families grow up happily. Parents should be deeply aware that otherwise they will grow up unhappy.
The Bible offers ways to raise children happily. “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and admonition of the Lord.” I would like to share grace by finding two lessons from the text.
1. Do not anger your children.
In the joint translation, we are translating "Do not hurt your children's hearts."
What parents should do at home.
First, it must be the light that illuminates the darkness of the home. In other words, it should be a hope for the home.
Second, it serves as a lighthouse to provide direction. It is to guide and guide.
Third, parents are the pillars and pillars of the family. This means that the family must be built on a strong rock without being shaken. We need to make sure that we are not shaken financially, and we need to teach them unwaveringly about nurturing with love and what we should teach.
Parents must establish good family order. A happy family cannot be established in a disordered family without an upper and a lower. This does not mean that parents should be the monarchs of the family, nor should they be the tyrants of the family. Parents should put all their efforts into making the family happy. The home should be warm and tender, the fountain of forgiveness, love and mercy overflowing, and there should be a feeling of reassurance and security. Even if a child commits a mortal sin, the only place to be forgiven is the family, and only the parents.
One of the biggest blows to the hearts of children today is the disconnection of conversations resulting from a lack of understanding. There are no meetings between family members. They don't understand each other's minds. Adults are like adults, and children are running on parallel lines in their own way. In such a home there is no warmth or relief between parents and children, no family love or mutual encouragement. Parents try to understand their children, and children need to try to understand them in their own way. As families work together and study each other, conversations will open and the encounter will become whole.
In "Doctor Zhivago," the work "Doctor Zhivago" by "Pasternak", a Soviet Nobel laureate in literature, there is a passage that says, "Man is born to live, not to prepare to live."
Most importantly, we need to show our children that father and mother live with each other. A parent's greatest gift to a child is an environment in which fathers love their mothers very much and mothers love their fathers very much. This can be a model for your children to learn how to love each other, giving them an infinite sense of security.
2. Nurture them in the discipline and admonition of the Lord.
Psalm 127:3. “Children are an inheritance from the Lord.”
Children are not dolls made for their parents. You can't raise your children according to your parents' desires, like touching, stroking, fixing, and remaking dolls. Children are the life God has entrusted to their parents. The owner of children is not their parents, but God. Parents' responsibility is to bring up their children according to God's will.
The Bible says, "Nurture them in the discipline and admonition of the Lord." Culture is translated as disciple, and discipline is translated as instruction. The word disciple means training through action, and training through the word instruction. To nurture in the discipline and admonition of the Lord means to raise them in words and actions that are consistent with the Lord's will. Each parent's actions become a living education for their young children. Children grow up to imitate their parents. Parents, think of it this way. If you imagine that your children are just like their parents, would your parents be satisfied with your children? You must be able to show your children true faith and a good conscience.
A parent's life is a legacy to their children.
Exodus 20:6-7. He emphasizes training through the words, "Atonement for sins, passing from father to son to the third and fourth generations, but showing mercy to thousands of those who love me and keep my commandments" In the words of Solomon to the people, “Teach a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6).
In his letter to Timothy, Paul says that the Bible "makes the man of God perfect." (2 Timothy 3:17)
Let's take a look at this toy. Even if it is thrown or kicked, it feels like it will fall and stand upright. Because it has weight at its center. A heavy person who has the Word of God even in the heart of man can overcome difficult circumstances, trials, and temptations and live a perfect and upright life as a man of God. The religious education of children should be taught from an early age. No matter how much you emphasize it, it would be fine.
The younger the children, the greater the effect of religious education. Religious education should take place before the age of four or five, when children's personalities are most clearly formed. Human brain weight When looking at the development process, the brain weight of a newborn is 380 g, at 4 years old, 1,330 g, and a 20-year-old adult brain weighs 1,400 g. It is said that 95% of the human brain develops by the age of 4, and the remaining 5% develops over 16 years until adulthood. The basic personality of a person is formed before the age of 4 or 5 years.
Children should be educated in the faith when they are young and should be raised in it. Such a child grows up and becomes a full person. Parents are responsible for this. Parents should be responsible for bringing up their children in the discipline and admonition of the Lord, not to provoke them to anger. Then you can create a happy family and a happy neighbor.