Title For proud parents/Ephesians (6:1~4)
trauma of parents and children
The problem of our time is that of the family. When the family collapses, the country collapses. We are experiencing indescribable chaos due to the recent economic crisis. However, the way to solve this is surprisingly simple. Your home will be restored. Any crisis can be overcome when a family unites and loves passionately and father and mother become good parents.
Family problems are the parents' problems, not the children's problems. There is no ‘problem child’ in the strict sense. There are only ‘problem parents’.
When I was on sabbatical and my wife and I participated in the Hawaii DTS, something very impressive happened there. In the afternoon during training, there was a time to divide into small groups and talk about each other, and the people in their 40s and 50s who were with them at that time all agreed that they still have the wounds they received from their parents. A man in his fifties trembled in anger while talking about his father and eventually cried.
The wounds I received from my parents are so long, deep and lasting In addition, the wounds they received from their parents also cause difficulties for their current family.
Some time ago, 2 to 30 students from Handong Global University participated in Shining Glory. I ended up giving them a lecture called ‘Father’s Heart’. The theme was ‘If you do not forgive your parents, you cannot meet God.’
I said, ‘Those who are in conflict over their parents’ problems, those who still cannot forgive their parents and are suffering because of their wounds, and those who have been hurt by their parents’ expressions of love, get up. I will pray for them.’ Weeping broke out everywhere. College 1st and 2nd graders wept over their necks. I did not know that the wounds of those students were so deep.
I think that all problems are caused by the wounds of parents and children. Once this problem is solved, everything will be fine. In particular, the wounds he received from his father always remain indelible and torment his children.
When I was an evangelist in charge of kindergarten and youth, when I asked the children to draw the face of Jesus, one child drew lines on the face of Jesus with black crayons. When I saw the picture, I was surprised to find out about the child. The father ran away from home, the mother ran away, and the child was living with a poor grandmother. The kid doesn't draw people's faces properly because people are cursed.
Parents use violence, cheat on them, run away from home and divorce. They also rape their children. Some beat their children with a belt. There are a lot of these things around us.
Children raised by such parents live with indelible scars for the rest of their lives. If anyone here has this problem, please fix it. Only by resolving this can the deep pain and pain in your heart be resolved, and only when the wounds within you are healed can you become a good father and mother. On the other hand, if you live with this wound and do not forgive your parents, it is passed on to your children without you even realizing it, worsening the relationship, and hurting you.
If there is a fight between husband and wife, please go to a place without children to fight. Too many parents don't know if they have children when they have feelings. Some parents use their children in marital quarrels. They try to make each other their children. This creates a lot of conflict for children.
Another reason young children get hurt and wander is because their father and mother are not together. I always say ‘famous parents are bad parents’. World-famous parents do not have time to take care of the family. Such parents express love as material things. Buy clothes or give money. Still, I can't spend time with my children. Another reason children wander is that their parents have not been good models. Children only remember the bad things about their parents because they criticize each other, conflict, swear, and point out mistakes in what they see.
You should not curse your husband in front of your children. You shouldn't even insult your wife. Because children all remember. Rather, they should praise each other and express their love by deliberately hugging each other. Then children will have good memories of their parents.
Religious education begins at home
A bigger problem than this basic problem is educating our children in a worldly way. Are you trying to educate your children biblically? Don't you think that church school education is bad? When it's time for the entrance exam, don't you tell them to just study instead of sending them to church?
This is where it starts to fall apart. The goal of world education is to send them to first-class schools and to make competent people. Therefore, we educate and instill knowledge accordingly. In this way, children's standards of judgment become worldly. You just fight your opponent and try to win.
One of the Hebrew teaching methods is not to fight and overcome others, but to teach them to live differently from others. We learn how to win and kill others rather than how to live with them.
In order to survive in this world, children are confused because they are teaching them to be better than anyone else and at the same time teaching their faith in the same way. Even if we lose a little, we need to teach morality, conscience, and God-centered education. From a young age, we should be taught not to yield our faith, even if we suffer losses.
The field of worldly education is a school or a private academy, but the field of biblical education is the home. The church's Sunday School was created for orphans. Education should take place at home.
The religious education of children should be done at home. However, we often visit elementary school teachers, but not church teachers. It is the values of parents that worldly education is important and spiritual education is insignificant. Some parents take their children with them during worship. Because I'm busy, I think the children can go even during worship. I don't think Christian education is so important. They don't make money, go to a first-class university, or get a job at a first-class company, so they don't put all their heart into church education. Because we have been educated with our worldly values in this way, children are only shells even though they have received religious education.
Children of families who believe in Jesus have a shell of faith but no content. There is no deep truth that fears God. If this happens, all the churches in Korea will eventually become angered by making formal believers with no core of faith. Children's educators are their parents, not teachers or experts.
There is no greater educator than parents. We entrust all of our children to either the police department lady or the academy teacher. Where will those children learn the standards of morality? Kids think money can do anything because they see their parents solve problems with money. Change your tutor if you don't like it. Because you can give them money. All of this is the responsibility of the parents.
Dear brothers and sisters, what kind of parents are biblical and who are the best parents? What are the children's memories of our mothers? Even at this age, the parents I remember were those who prayed in the morning. Today, we need to reestablish the image of parents from a biblical perspective. We need to create a biblical father and mother image. When we live by this principle, even in difficult times, our children will grow up to be honest and righteous.
It is of the utmost importance that the father stays in place. Of course, it is also important for the mother to stay in place. However, according to the Bible, if a father lives as a husband, an honest office worker, and a holy saint, the family is bound to return to its proper place.
Parents who teach ‘the Word’ should be
There are several principles that the Israelites do not yield to in educating their children. The first is 'Shema' education. The words of Deuteronomy 6:4 become the foundation of religious education. The people of Israel thoroughly took these words as the principle of educating their children.
They have a coming-of-age ceremony when they turn 13. We value weddings, but they value coming-of-age ceremonies more than weddings. It is to complete the Torah education by the age of 13 and perform the ritual to live as the Son of God.
The children of our ‘Dream Land’ are important. Thorough Bible education before entering middle school will play an important role in laying the foundation for children's lives.
Another thing they thoroughly educate their children is to keep the Sabbath day holy. However, when we are busy, our parents do not go to church first. I want you to teach your children a church-centered faith. There is another thing that the Israelites have been thoroughly taught since they were young, and that is holiness. Because ‘holiness’ is the hallmark of the temple. So wherever the Israelites go, they are clean.
I like the Onnuri Church to be clean. Cleanliness can even be like salvation. Because it washes away sins. Those who believe in Jesus must keep everything clean and pure. The Israelites were thoroughly educated in this way from an early age. This is because he was able to offer a sacrifice without blemish.
To enter the Holy of Holies of God, you must be holy. God said to Moses, ‘Take off your sandals from your feet. The place where you stand is holy ground.” He demanded holiness, and he told Joshua that the secret of war was “holiness.” I believe that the principle of economic recovery is also in holiness. I believe in purity and in cleanliness. We must abide by this principle. Another important method of education for the Israelites is ‘table education’. The father teaches the Bible while eating with the children.
In the book of Proverbs, you can see that the phrase ‘my son’ is used a lot. Solomon's father is David. Solomon's wisdom came from his father. I want you to be able to teach the Bible to your children at the table. As Ephesians 6:1 says, I hope that the children raised by you will be blessed.
‘I was happy because of my parents and found God. I hope you can hear me say, ‘Because of my parents, I have faith.’
Sow God. Sow Jesus. Your child will never fail or go wrong. This is because, no matter how rough and turbulent the world may be, those who live centered on God will not perish.