Title God-given couple (Genesis 02:18-25)
Content It is not an exaggeration to say that relationships influence a person's life.
First, those who have normalized their relationship with God will be able to live a life of true meaning and grace and blessings in life on this earth. Normalization of this relationship does not come about through human effort. This is possible only through Jesus Christ. Because Jesus Christ came from this earth and was crucified and died for our lives, where our relationship with God has been completely destroyed, our relationship with God will be restored. Therefore, those who believe in Jesus Christ no longer have a relationship with God, but a relationship of love, a relationship between blessing and grace, and a close relationship that cannot be separated, so that they can always receive God's love and receive blessings. If we live while receiving it and die because the veil of our body collapses, we will enter the eternal house of our Heavenly Father and live a more blessed and gracious life. We must maintain this relationship with God. In that case, we will continue to receive God's grace and live a life of glory.
However, the Bible allows Adam to establish this relationship with God first, and then forms a new relationship, which is the ``marital relationship''. This marital relationship is very important. The beauty of this marital relationship is to produce great people in this society and the kingdom of God, and to make the family, the foundation of a society, healthy.
However, the beauty of this marital relationship is beginning with God as the center. What you must remember is that marriage does not start with two people, but with three people. That is, God is one man and one woman. In the text, the relationship between Adam and Eve's first couple begins with God's deep intervention, and God's work of allowing them to meet is revealed.
Therefore, the beginning of a marital relationship should begin with the fact and belief that ``God made us together.'' Jesus also said in Matthew 19:6, ``Therefore, what God has joined together, no man can separate'. Sometimes we run into doubts and doubts about whether our relationship is wrong, and there are times when we feel anxious about whether I'm getting married. However, whenever that happens, we should hold onto the words of the above facts, give thanks, pray for each other, and look after our own shortcomings. By doing so, you will be prepared for happiness by making your marital relationship normal.
Marriage is not a master-slave relationship, but a relationship that values and loves each other. Husbands are very sensitive to their wives about their in-laws, but are often not interested in the affairs of the wife's family. He unconditionally forces his wife to make sacrifices, and he neglects his duties. Some people even interfere with the matter of their wife's faith and even invade the realm of God.
First, husbands must love their wives. You should love and appreciate what is the best gift God has given you. And you should cherish your wife knowing that she is a gift from God. That is when God is pleased and gives grace.
Wives should acknowledge the fact that God sent me to this husband to reveal God's glory and fulfill God's will, and live the best life for that husband. That is, you must obey your husband according to God's will and strive to build the kingdom of God through him. Her hard work is patience. With patience and hope, relying on God, praying and gaining wisdom, we must achieve family harmony and nurture the children God has given us through the Word of God.
When this is the case, the marital relationship is healthy and the family can drink water from the fountain of God's blessing.
In addition, the parts that a couple should work together are as follows.
Couples should recognize each other's hard work. A husband should be aware of his wife's hard work. Those who take care of the children all day, run the kitchen, run and run their husbands, serve their parents. They do things that are not specifically marked or lighted in the same place over and over again, day after day. Even if no one else knows this, the husband should know. At that time, the wife will gain strength and be zealous. When the wife gains strength and takes care of the household, both the husband and the children can achieve happiness.
Ex) The meaning of salim comes from the word 'save'. So, you need to know how precious and important it is to do household chores.
A wife should also recognize her husband's hard work and sweat. The stress they receive from outside is not normal, and the anxiety and obsession from the competition in life are bothering them. Also, the sense of emptiness and helplessness that comes from running from morning till late at night haunts them and annoys them, physical weakness makes them weak, and the bluff of men who try to hide it also haunts them with a sense of pressure. When wives fully understand all these conditions, when they understand and recognize their husbands, men feel grateful to their wives and do not even think about cheating. Because if the wife doesn't know it, it's common for men to pay attention to other women who know it, and then fall into temptation and commit a crime.
It is very important for us to recognize that a marriage relationship will not mature unless we try and make an effort, and that relationship will never become a proper relationship.
Also, a relationship with a couple's beauty must make an effort to fill each other's lack.
There are no perfect people in this world. They are all lacking and all have weaknesses. You can't find it before you get married or at the beginning of your marriage, but as you get married for a little while, you begin to notice the other's weaknesses and the other's shortcomings. The other person looks childish, and it looks very different from the image the other person wants. It is often referred to as a period of boredom. However, we will keep in mind that boredom is a ``regulatory period'' for believers. I hope that God will discover the clear will of God when he wants to make a woman. Verse 18 says, ?쏧t is not good for a man to be alone; I will make him a helper matchmaker.??That's right. Married couples should not forget that they are 'helpers' who acknowledge each other's shortcomings, fill in each other's shortcomings, and help each other, rather than being disappointed and angry when they don't satisfy each other's greed and ask for only for each other.
In order to help each other, you must fully understand each other's weaknesses and accept them first. In other words, you don't know how to try to fix it or how to do it yourself. You simply have to accept it once and accept it. And then you have to leave it all to God. Because God made him and it is a gift God gave to me, God knows him much better than I do, and God can correct him. Therefore, rather than criticizing the other person's weaknesses and ruining the relationship because of it, we should entrust that part to God and pray earnestly. Praying for the other person is the best love and the best way for the lack of it. And then I have to find a way and a way to help myself and get wisdom from God to help me.
One last thing to remember-
God has given us a creative life. God, who created the heavens and the earth, gave Adam a name for all the animals he created (verses 19, 20). Therefore, our marital system must also be creative. In other words, not those who are suffering, discouraged, disappointed, or regretful under the present conditions, but actively exert their creative abilities for a beautiful and happy life.
If you feel unhappy, try to be happy. If you think they don't fit, try to fit them.
If love doesn't work, find a way to love.
This is the creative and religious life.
Because many families do not lead such a creative life, they are not able to enjoy their own happiness, exposing unhappy married life and incorrect marital relationships.
Such a creative marital relationship is possible only through a passionate life of faith in each other. This is possible only when we serve God well, follow God's will, and live a life of faith according to God's word.
Dear friends, do you really want to make your family a home that God loves and is pleasing to God? If so, above all else, make sure your relationship with God is right. Then, I believe that the work of God's blessing will overflow in your home.
The Bible says, ``Unless the LORD builds the house, those who build it labor in vain''. That's right. The history of our home cannot be done through our own efforts. God will help you, God will bless you, and God will make your family beautiful.
Today, I did not talk about any family and did not give any examples. Because every family's problems are uniquely different from each other. Therefore, recognizing that our home and our husband and wife are the only experimental objects that we alone can properly establish before God, we go out for our family and do everything so that God can fulfill His will through our family. We must be firmly united in faith, and first of all, I hope that there will be spiritual training in blood and sweat in front of God so that the marital relationship can be established as God's first desired marital relationship. Remember. There are no imperfect and unhappy marriages. There are only imperfect, effortless, immature couples.
Amen.