Title Let it be an exemplary family.
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Make it an exemplary home.
Psalm 128:1-6
There is this story in the Talmud, a book of Jewish wisdom.
There was a rabbi named Mayer who was famous for his preaching skills. This man preached every Friday night in the chapel, and hundreds of people gathered to listen to his sermon. Among them was a woman who loved to listen to Mayer's sermons. The other women are busy preparing food for the Sabbath on Friday night, but she is the only one who has come to listen to this rabbi's sermon. Mayer preached for a long time, and the woman returned home satisfied with the sermon. However, while waiting for her at the door, her husband angrily asked, "Tomorrow is the Sabbath, and you haven't prepared any food, so where are you shooting?"
“Where the hell have you been?”
He said, “I am on the way to hear Rabbi Mayer’s sermon at the chapel.” Then the husband became very angry and shouted.
He closed the door and locked it, saying, “Never think of entering the house until you spit in the rabbi’s face.”
The wife, who was expelled from the house, was forced to stay at a friend's house and separated from her husband. Upon hearing this, Mayer deeply regretted that her sermon had been so long that it had broken the peace of a family. Then he called the woman and complained that her eyes were very sore.
“I say that if you wash with someone else’s saliva, you will get better, so please wash yourself.”
Thus, the woman spit in the eyes of the rabbi. Disciples to the rabbi
The rabbi answered, “You have a high reputation, so why did you allow a woman to spit in her face?”
“I can do more than that to restore peace in the family,” he said. In the end, this rabbi's sacrifice was able to reconcile the family.
The Son Jesus came to this world and performed many miracles. The first miracle he performed was at a wedding feast in Cana of Galilee. Jesus attended the wedding and blessed the birth of a family. It did not disturb the atmosphere of the wedding because he made wine with water when there was not enough wine. Therefore, it is important to know that Jesus' ministry began with the starting point of one family. Jesus valued the birth of the family and blessed it. Likewise, we should not neglect the home that God values.
Today, we would like to talk about how to create a happy family while thinking about the husband and wife, who can be seen as the two most basic pillars of a single family while keeping it as Marriage Sunday. Of course, there are some of us who are not married, and some of us are already old and alone. However, we can love others properly only when we realize this principle through the Word.
一. An exemplary family should be a helping partner (verse 19).
In today's text, God did not create Adam alone, He created two people, Adam and Eve. Why did you make two? He made us to be helpers, not matchmakers who made us want each other. Where do marital problems come from? We need to be partners who help each other, but there are always problems when we try to become the partners we want each other to be.
When God created Eve, what did Adam take out of it? It was made by removing the ribs. If God had created Eve by removing one of Adam's skull bones, the men would have been in trouble. Didn't a woman think about everything and try to dominate everything? Conversely, if God had made Eve from Adam's peach or leg bones, the man would have always tried to trample the woman. But God did not do that, and made Eve from Adam's rib.
It is not to trample on a woman with her husband's authority. Also, saying that it is women's liberation, don't make fun of knowing your husband. God created Eve by removing Adam's rib so that they could be helpers for each other. But we can't. Instead of trying to be a helper from the beginning, I try to become the one I want. Here is the problem.
‘If I marry this man, how happy will this man make me?’
‘How wonderful will my life be if I marry this woman?’ I have no choice but to fight from the beginning. How can a man satisfy a woman's needs and a woman can satisfy a man's desire? There is no one.
No one is perfect in this world. If my husband and my wife were perfect, why would you marry someone like me? If men and women were perfect, we would never marry once in our lifetime, and we would grow old and die single. We are all fragile. That is why God created men and women as partners to help each other complement each other's shortcomings and allowed us to have a precious family.
Please don't get me wrong and listen. People compare women to animals and say that she is like a fox. So, what kind of animal does a man compare to? It's called a wolf. It's more like a bear than that. Really, men are as dull as bears. There are times when I have no sense.
So it is said that men need three types of women in their lifetime. First, we need a woman who embraces us warmly like a mother. The second thing is that you need a woman like your sister who can advise and rebuke you. The third is a woman like a daughter. I need a woman I can tremble with and spend time with. So, if a woman can do three roles well, she can make a family peaceful and harmonious.
When you are with your husband, a woman should know her husband's feelings within 5 minutes. Am I supposed to appear as a motherly woman? Otherwise, whether you should appear as a woman like your older sister or as a woman like your daughter, if you understand this and make a strategy, you can be at peace. If you are supposed to appear as a woman like a mother, what will happen if you appear as a woman who argues, rebukes and scolds you like your sister? There is bound to be a fight. Therefore, I hope you will help and buy, thinking that the man is a bear. And the woman must be a fox, so I hope you think so. Then your home will be at peace. Be the helper and not the desired one.
二. An exemplary family has a confession of love for one another (verse 23).
A couple should always have a conversation alive. There must be a confession of love. When Adam first met Eve, he loved it so much that he said, “This is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.” Of course, since then, the confession of love has been refined, but Adam's confession is the first confession of love in mankind. But after a while, sin entered between them. What did Adam say?
“God, my condition is ruined because of the woman you gave me.” Eve is referred to as “that woman” in the third person. That woman told me to eat the fruit, so I ate the fruit and sinned. “These are completely cut off here. Adam and Eve began to crack. However, when a wall is blocked because a man and a woman are separated, one way to break the wall is through a channel called dialogue. When Adam and Eve sinned against God and a family dispute arose, God came to Adam and Eve.
“Adam, where are you?” He called Adam and came and gave it to him when he was blocked. It was an attempt to reconcile between God and man through dialogue. The same is true. Even between married couples, if there is a wall that is blocked, we have to solve it through dialogue. Just as God came directly to Adam and Eve and reconciled their discord, so in this age, the Lord wants to come and talk with us and be reconciled.
Jesus tells us
When the Lord asks, “Why did you change your mind?” When the Lord says, “My husband is like this and my wife is like that,” the Lord tells me not to worry too much and believe in me. He tells you to obey my words. Ask each other to forgive each other. I ask you to forgive and understand each other as I have forgiven you.
An old couple, who live with one horse, decided to exchange the horse for something more useful than a horse after discussion one day. So one day, my grandfather was driving his horse to the market and he thought it would be nice to have a cow that could get milk, so he exchanged the horse for a cow. I changed the cow back to a sheep that my wife could handle, and then changed it back to a chicken that lays eggs rather than a sheep, and at nightfall I went into the inn to sleep. Upon entering the inn door, Grandpa finally traded the chicken for a sack of rotten apples. It reminded me of my wife, who once had a great deal of a rotten apple.
But that night, two nobles were staying at the inn. While these two nobles were having a conversation with their grandfather, the two nobles overheard what had happened today, and said, “You will go home today and your grandmother will be very angry.” Then the grandfather said, “No. Rather, Grandma will like it.” So the nobleman suggested that we make a bet. I made a bet to give her a gold coin if her reaction was good. The two nobles went home with their grandfather. When the grandfather returned after changing his horse and a rotten apple, he told the grandmother about how he had changed the word. Grandpa's optimism that the grandmother would be very pleased was met, and the two nobles admired the grandmother's reaction and returned home as promised. An exemplary family, a happy family, is a lesson learned when a couple understands each other, forgives, loves, and respects each other.
three. The exemplary family is naked but not ashamed (verse 25).
“When God created a family, Adam and Eve were naked before they sinned, but they were not ashamed.
But after committing a crime, I was ashamed.
Genesis 3:7 "Then their eyes were opened, and they knew that they were naked, and they sewed fig leaves together and made skirts." Therefore, married couples should live a life that is not shameful. This is a happy family. This is an exemplary home. There are many shameful families today. How many families have started out warmly without shame because they were ashamed of each other because of their husband and wife's unfaithful acts? .
A scholar named Irving was studying in the library, and the library was littered with portraits of the scholars. After a brief sleep, he had a dream. He was dressed in very splendid clothes and had a crown on his head, and the historical scholars whom he had seen in the portraits came and took away the splendid things he wore on his body one by one. Some said, “This is mine,” and took the crown. Some wore pants, some even wore panties. He became naked. So I woke up from the dream while I was embarrassed and not knowing what to do. He pondered. And he realized.
'Yes. My knowledge is not mine! This was all borrowed from this person and that person. I've been proud of myself as if I'm great in wearing someone else's clothes, but it's a real shame.'
As a married couple, we always feel that we lack each other and believe that if we live humbly, we will become a happy family.
Conclusion Dear Saints
God has given you a home. (1) The couple gave each other as helpers. (2) Couples must confess their love to each other. (3) I hope that the couple will live a life free from shame and become exemplary Christian families.