Title [Previous] Obey Your Parents in the Lord
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Ephesians 6:1-3
In biblical order, is the parent-child relationship distant? Is the relationship between the couple distant?
Biblically, the first thing that is formed in a relationship with people is that of a couple, followed by the relationship between parents and children. But in reality, the relationship between parent and child seems to come first when it comes to emotions.
which one comes first? are you major?
They are all important and we will love them with that amount of love.
However, although the Bible says how to love your children, it is difficult to find the words to love your children.
But please respect your parents. There is a saying to obey.
Why?
To summarize the Ten Commandments, there are 4 things related to God and 6 things related to people.
The first thing that comes out of your relationship with that person is to honor your parents. But if you look closely, the only thing that is attached to the promise is the fifth commandment, “Honor your father and mother.
Deuteronomy 5:16 says, “Honor your father and mother, as the LORD your God has commanded you, so that you may live a long and blessed life in the land the LORD your God is giving you.”
There is only the fifth word that promises a blessing with “if you do” after the command.
Why don't they promise blessings on other orders and only honor their parents?
That's how important it is, and it's precious.
Isn't that also a story that people don't like? Is it a difficult story to tell?
Anyone who believes in Jesus should be able to ask fundamental questions.
A person who believes in Jesus is a person who lives according to the absolute standards, not the person who lives according to the common stories of the world, not according to the prevailing fashions of the world.
But what God tells us to do is not that difficult.
I've said it before, but you said you shouldn't kill, commit adultery, or steal, but it's easier not to do it.
That said, it's easier to do what you're told to do than to not do it.
Today's words to honor your parents are not only easy, but also God's promised blessings.
Is it really that easy?
The real filial piety of the Korean Family Filial Filial Academy has announced understanding the hearts of parents, how easy and simple it is... These are the things that truly understand the heart.
*13 filial methods to make parents happy
△ I will give you a greeting.
△ Answer well and listen carefully.
△ Brighten your face.
△ Let me clear your doubts.
△ Maintain health.
△ Give light work.
△ I give strength to my parents when they are struggling
△ We serve delicious food.
△ Save your pocket money and buy a gift of love.
I scratch my back.
△ Let me meet my friends.
I understand the mistakes of my parents generously.
△ Express your love.
However, the problem is that there are children who honor their parents in a formal relationship.
ex) The words of a Buddhist grandmother I met at the Bibong Flower Fair - Son is important should be And in order to be treated, you have to hold your possessions tightly. Don't let go until you line up.
Still, maybe it's because I don't see myself as a person who came with my mother because of my wealth... Or is it that I'm asking to go out...
How can such a story be circulated publicly when children neglect their parents, who are old, sick, and useless without money? Sad reality.
So, even if the parents hold possession of the property until death, are they actually receiving filial piety from their children?
It is not the parents who serve the children, not the money in their pockets.
How could such a child who does not respect my parents who sacrificed everything for me love my neighbor as myself?
How can a person who has a formal relationship with their parents live with what kind of relationship they have with others?
Furthermore, we see that we live in relationships with a pretentious relationship.
ex) 2006 MBC Lunar New Year special 'Women! 100 to 100' high couple survey results
Lies daughter-in-law tells mother-in-law:
1st place: 'Mother, are you going already? Stay a few more days and go' (362 people)
2nd place: 'I'm sorry for giving you less pocket money. I'll give you a lot next time' (245 people)
3rd place: 'Mom's food is the best' (202 people),
4th place: 'I called, but he wasn't there' (172 people)
5th place: 'I want to become a mother-in-law like yours'
So what is the most common lie mother-in-law tells daughter-in-law?
1st place: 'Baby, I think of you as a daughter' (452)
2nd place: 'What's your birthday? Let's just eat roughly' (227 people)
3rd place: 'I must die soon' (175 people)
4th place: 'When I was a daughter-in-law, I did more than that' (87 people)
5th place: 'Grow a little more. I'll do it in the morning' (59 people) and so on and so on...
It really hurts to see this. What a good story except for the 3rd and 4th place mother-in-law says to her daughter-in-law... What a beautiful heart... People who say it or hear it say it's a lie... Are you saying this!
The Bible says to honor your parents and to bless you, but pastors say it's easy... Really, it's easy when you look at it, right?
But it's easy to respect those parents, so why not?
There are several reasons.
First, because they do not understand that love.
It doesn't make sense to say you don't know.
If you need to love your child but do not have money, your child may not understand. But parents know what their children can't do.
Then don't parents know that they don't do it? I know that too.
The pastor knows. I know that heart.
Knowing is not knowing with your head. To say that you know by crying over your parents once or twice is not knowing. Anyone who joins the military becomes a filial piety. However, there are many people who become stale when they are discharged. This means that I did not fully realize the love of my parents in my heart.
The second is because they don't understand their parents. Because I can't go further and forgive.
It seems easy for people to understand, but it is very difficult.
As long as you understand, there will be no problems.
As long as the couple understands that, they are happy.
As long as there is understanding between parents and children, there is a conflict between parents and children.
Do you not understand because I am speechless?
Why does a speechless child try so hard to understand and understand how well?
How do you understand and tolerate children who do not know what to do?
Don't you understand that?
Yes, because I think it is my center.
Yes, because I don't think you should care.
I believe that children should be taken care of, and parents should not be taken care of. From there there is a problem.
Whatever your child says, you still listen. I don't listen to what my older parents have to say. I've been urging my child to say the same thing over and over again... Why don't you want to hear your parents again?
If you add one more, you get 100 times.
No, I'm not asking you to talk to me... Really...
Some yangbans repeat what they said yesterday. As if talking in a very natural way...! Very actor-like... Isn't it fun?
But everyone! Doesn't my heart hurt when I think about it more?! How smart my parents are, and how correct they are... Isn't it pitiful and pathetic that you say it so many times, as if you're talking about it for the first time?
Why can't you honor your parents? Because they are tolerant and unforgiving.
Oscar Wilde said: "Parents forgive any faults of their children, but children judge their parents by their own standards and judge them as they please. And there is little or no way to forgive their parents."
This is why it is said that the greatest forgiveness in this world is to forgive your parents.
“Honor your father and mother, for these are the first commandments with promise” (Ephesians 6:2).
We tend to focus only on the feeding and drinking of these verses. But true reverence is about expressing respect in the heart that goes beyond physical necessity. It is the resentment against the parents that gnaws the heart of this respect.
The wounds caused by his father, who was not faithful to his family and led a bystander life, the father who was completely incompetent for life, the father who was always bedridden due to illness, the father who was always drunk and wasted time, and the mother and A father who only fought... . The past years when I couldn't pray because of such a father and I always had to hold my breath... . So, the days when I was always withdrawn and lost my confidence and had to live in the shade… .
Are any of your parents one of these? Please forgive me.
Is that all? There are also wounds caused by bad parenting attitudes. Parents who were indifferent to constant comparisons and thoroughness, parents who were forced to study because of their ignorance of learning... .
Some have confessed this. I took the English test, and although I got pretty good grades, after being scolded, I gave up studying English because of the backlash against my father. Because that was the only retaliation against his father.
Of course, the father wasn't good. What else did that benefit the child?
In this way, you must realize that you are the one who actually suffers and dies.
My deliverance from the valley of death is tolerating my parents. So, not the parents themselves, but the parents should weep for their clumsiness, weakness, and sins that they could only live like that.
How hard must it have been for the parents themselves, who only felt rustic and shabby?
Even while raising children, I can't do everything I want to do, do what I want to do, right? Knowing your heart, money, study, health, you know that all of these things don’t work out the way you want them to, right?
This is why I even say that he is forgiven only when I become a parent.
Please forgive me if you have any resentment towards your parents in your memory. Forgive me even if you are dead. Please understand the pain of those who had to leave behind their immature children.
I have to realize my folly of not properly understanding their acts of love.
And if there was a wound they gave you and you had to come before the throne of God's grace because of hardship, it would also be a gift from your parents.
They tell you to be filial when your parents are still alive, right? Actually, being alive is an opportunity to be filial and an opportunity to receive blessings.
Hallelujah!
Let's be filial
Prayer - What you have in your heart, but what doesn't work
Leaving the commandments with God's promises, even though there is an opportunity to do it...
Forgive us fools who have not forgiven and are still resentful and complaining.
Now let me love, understand and forgive.